Hacks for Finding Your Perfect Swimsuit
Summer is upon the Americas!!!!! It may not seem like it for many of us, especially us East Coasters dealing with Storm Neptune, but the time is C-O-M-I-N-G.
That was a little more ominous sounding that I meant it to be! But for real, life will soon again become sunny and the birds will begin to chirp in the mornings. Happiness will reenter your brain as you stroll the streets for the “first time in forever” (I had to) seeing flowers and wearing brighter colors. Basically, you’ll enjoy the mess out of spring and then, POOF! It will suddenly turn so incredibly hot that you will randomly strip down to your undies in a Target parking lot and try to jump into a retention pond. Or at least, I might.
So let’s prepare for this time now and avoid such a scene. I mean, really. It only worked for Mr. Darcy in the BBC’s Pride & Prejudice. Come to think of it, EVERYTHING worked for Mr. Darcy, but I digress.
Not to get all swimsuit prepper on you, but to avoid the panic and drama of settling or over spending on your dream suit, you must plan now for how you will find it. And I’ve got a few tips, or hacks, as the internets call them these days, for help you.
1. Define “perfect swim suit” for you, now.
When I look at a swim catalog, the models look hella good! Curvy, short, thin, or tall. These models are in shape, no matter their body type. They also have a good measure of help (hello, Photoshop!) to smooth out cellulite, subtract a tiny roll where the suit cuts in when the torso twists (as it does), and tweak the lighting so that they look like celestial glory glows from within their very cores.
Yeah, I “know” that these models don’t walk around with lighting and photoshop screens surrounding them. The changes are done to create an image of perfection to sell the suit. And it works. Oh yes, it totally works! Until I try on the suit and do not see the same image in the mirror. It can be devastating when you try to recreate something you see and it is not the same. Why do you think Pinterest Fails are so addictive to look at? ‘Cuz we know the feeling!
After many summers and failed relationships with swimsuits, I’ve realized that a suit will never transform me into someone else. And certainly not a perfect version of someone else, because that “perfection” is really just a fabrication of advertising. “Well, duh!” you must be thinking. But it’s taken me some time to come to this.
Some winters…and springs…and years, I eat too many cookies and I begin the summer behind my goals. Other years, I keep it in check. Some years I have a baby. Whatever! No matter the year’s events, I still want to swim in a damn body of water, and to FEEL GOOD about myself while doing so!! What I am looking for is a suit that will highlight what I feel to be my best, minimize my areas in progress, and support the parts have changed or that cannot change. If you can find a suit that does these things for you now, then I believe that is the perfect suit for you, now.
This attitude is very liberating for me. I hope it will be so for you in your quest.
2. Get it over with and have a professional fitting where you will not purchase anything.
Find a nice department store or exclusively swimwear shop, trade swapping sitter services with a friend (DO NOT BRING THE KIDS), and set up a professional swimsuit fitting. If the store doesn’t know what you’re talking about, then call another store. You’re not looking for someone who is simply trying to sell you a suit. You’re looking for someone to educate you. I believe that you should skip most of the articles online that say, “which swimsuit is best for your body type”, because at the end of the day, many of us fall into multiple categories in these [often] silly posts and it just becomes confusing.
Find out what styles are going to fit into the “perfect suit for you” category by talking to a professional about what you want to highlight, minimize and support. Leave the store without buying anything, but having taken pictures of suits and copious notes on brands and styles that you liked. You may return to this store and purchase a suit, but for now, do not.
3. Set a budget and a goal for how many suits you need.
It would be nice to have a swimsuit for every day of the week that looks amazing on you and feels fantastic, but I have found that since I’m no longer 15, the quality aspect of swimwear is more important that ever. The having-had-babies has also amplified this need. And you know the saying, “you get what you pay for”. Well, it’s true to a point. I’m certainly not suggesting anyone go buy a $300 swimsuit, if they cannot afford it and still pay their bills/save for their goals/enjoy life, but I am suggesting that if the H&M and Target suits don’t perfectly flatter you, maybe now’s a great time to rethink the idea of quality vs. quantity.
I’d rather spend $100 and have one amazing swimsuit that I feel great in, than $30 on 3 so-so suits. If you can buy more than 1, yay for you! Just don’t forget to apply the highlight/minimize/support standards to each of them.
If you keep buying clothing that makes you feel “so-so”, you will KEEP BUYING CLOTHING. More than you need. Obviously, you have to buy clothing from time to time. In fact, please do. Just marinate on this a bit, yes?
Now comes the fun part. “Did she just say fun in a post about swimsuit shopping?” Yes, I did!
4. Get ready to earn lots of credit card points in the next month. Online and throw-it-in-the-bag shopping are gonna turn your house into a comfortable store with entertainment for your kids, a dressing room on which no one is waiting, and non-blue lighting. Oh, and T-I-M-E.
Say your goal is to buy 1 swimsuit. I think you should buy 15+ to make sure you find the perfect one for you. You must make comparisons to make the most educated choice. In the mean time, you’ll rack up some major credit card points and once you’ve returned the no-go items, you’ll only spend for the best choice.
- Order more than you think you need.
…to earn free shipping. Make sure exchanges are completely free and returns can be done for minimal cost or to a local store. I make all local returns in one day once I’ve found “the suit”.
…to get your “usual” size AND the next size up. Did you know most swimsuits run a size smaller than regular clothing? Forget about the number on the tag. You’re looking for the best fit.
…to get all potentially desired patterns/styles in both sizes. You don’t want to simply hope the pattern or style is still available in the size you need; you want to have it in hand
…to compare different brands or styles against each other with consistency. If you go to one store, try on some suits, then go to another store and try on new suits, it can be tough to assess how they all really compare against one another. The lighting can be good at one place, the mirror worse at another, and so forth. At home, you can compare apples to apples.Ya dig? - During this time, you can, and should, bring home options from local stores if you see them while you’re out. Throw ‘em in the bag to try them against the online options.
- Search the ENTIRE web to get the best pricing.
- I love websites like ShopStyle.com to sort through thousands and thousands of items. I can search ‘white retro bikini’ and sort through sizing, price, amount of discount, brands, etc., or type in a particular suit like ‘Nanette Lepore Mayan Rivierra Goddess’ and find the cheapest site from which to purchase it.
- I also find coupon websites like RetailMeNot.com to often get me at least 10% off. Email subscriptions get you better deals, but you will most likely have or want to unsubscribe at some point. Meh…
- If you cannot find the pricing or discount you want, check various websites for price adjustment policies. You may have to call them to find out this information, but I have bought something full price only to see the next day or week it went on sale and I hadn’t even received my item yet. I’ve gotten price adjustments from calling clothiers and asking for a price adjustment in these situations. Many brick and mortar stores also honor this for two weeks since purchase date.
- Sometimes you’ll order something online and realize the store has a better price, but maybe not the right colors/sizes. Call them up and see what they can do for you. Sometimes the store will order something for you at no extra charge, while other times the website will adjust the price. Try it!
- When you’re not trying them on, please keep all the swimsuits, packaging and receipts SAFELY tucked away from pets, children, and spouses that might accidentally lose/destroy/chuck them. You do not want to pay for anything you don’t love. And if you love it, you certainly don’t want it ruined.
5. Try on the suits.
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Avoid decision fatigue by getting up one morning, earlier than your kids and/or work need you to, and take 10 minutes to try on as many suits as you can. Why in the morning? Because you’re at your fittest, least bloated, most energized self at this point in the day. Things also seem more optimistic in the morning. Finally, you haven’t had to make many decisions yet that day, so your brain will not be fatigued with making decisions.
Please. Do not try on swimsuits at the end of a long, stress inducing day, punctuated by three/four meals. Just don’t! Even if you feel like you can make a decision, you will make the wrong one. Read about decision fatigue here.
Try on suits in the morning and then get ready for your day. Also, there is no need to make a decision right on the spot. Let things move around your brain a bit throughout your day.
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Compare no more than two suits at a time, because the brain can really only make a decision when presented with two options. I learned this at a seminar on neuroscience and selling, but cannot find the referenced ivy league study they gave us to back up my claim. Boo
Basically, when you make two categories and compare two things, you can narrow down a lot of options easily and quickly.
- Example: If you find one cut or style flattering, try on BOTH sizes, even if the first one, or smaller one, fits. Just see what is possible by trying on the other size. Forget about the tag number!
- If you find your best size, then compare the different patterns you ordered in that size and style. At this point, you have a pattern winner for that particular style and size. Set aside.
- As you repeat this process for other styles, you will then be able to compare two styles against one another.
- Example: Your winning patterned one piece tank against the winning solid tankini. You may decide that if they both are equally flattering physically, do you want a pattern or not? If you honestly don’t care about a pattern or not, then you can ask yourself, which one is going to “stay put” better? If they stay put equally well, then determine which one will give you the tan lines that interfere the least with your wardrobe choices. There is always a way to easily decide between two different things by asking the right questions.
6. Returns and Exchanges.
If you need exchange anything, call the website retailer BEFORE sending your other items back. They will usually not charge return shipping for exchanges and you can make sure they know which item(s) to send out that day. Otherwise, you’re merely hoping they still have what you actually want by the time your returned items arrive and are processed by their warehouse. No thanks!
Take a day and organize your returns to go back into their mailing bags, and anything that can be returned locally to go into a large bag in your car. Do not forget the receipts and packing slips!
Stop by the post office if needed, then hit up the stores. It took me a couple of hours, but it felt so good to see all those hundreds of dollars going BACK onto my credit card.
I also felt wonderful knowing that my perfect suit was hanging in my closet! I didn’t settle for a so-so suit.

Here’s how it all went down for me:

Referenced Suits
1-3 (no longer available through Nordstrom.com)


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what woman doesn’t dress bathing suit shopping. Love the tip about looking for the right suit for the now, not years ago! Great tips!
Thank you!
Tangent: I feel like we should all take fun at-the-pool/beach shots in our new suits some time in the summer and tag them #LittleLightSuitsUp or something. I’ve been empowered with Raw Beauty Talks and like minded Instagram accounts recently. We should embrace and find happiness in the present, no matter our goals for the future.
Wow! I never knew that professional swim suit fittings ever existed! I’m going to have to look into that once I start swim suit shopping. Great post! Super insightful!
Thank you, Alexa! Don’t wait too long to start looking…the ladies at Nordstrom told me that retailers get their biggest stock of suits in December and February.
As far as the professional fitting goes, also look into the new tool Land’s End launched that has you enter your information and preferences to find a slew of options to order from. I’m sure other sites have something similar, but I’ve not seen anything quite so extensive. Best of luck